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Why I’d Never Get Caught Dead Not Wearing a Shirt
In a shirtless culture, I’ll be the guy with the shirt on. Man Shman: “Men are allowed to freely expose their torsos, but I can’t just show mine to anyone.”I honestly don’t know why, at age 6, I...
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“That’s Not How We’re Gonna Do It”
An unexpected lesson on mature relationship-building from The Big Bang Theory.A sitcom about awkward men blindly trying to navigate the dating scene with no clue at all, where everyone’s neurotic and...
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That’s What You Get for Being So Adorable
Man Shman in costume.“Just because you think I’m Elmo doesn’t mean you may tickle me.” –Man ShmanI take pride in doing things by myself. When I showed up at my friend’s mother’s Halloween party...
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My On-Again, Off-Again Relationship with Shame
Sometimes I can hear the world insist there’s something essentially wrong about me. Twenty-six years ago, I didn’t have a name for what I felt when I imitated the dance moves of The Misfits, from the...
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Why I Write – To Prove Myself
Sustained by a stubborn conviction that he could do it better than some of the literary “greats,” Man Shman learned that writing was simply too important to NOT do. —In the meantime I was making...
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Good Lessons from a Bad Father
By being his usual, insensitive self, he showed me what kind of man not to be. I was moved by Danielle Campoamor’s recent reminder that we aren’t doomed to repeat our parents’ story if we discern the...
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The Men Who Made Me
Teachers and friends, writers and bosses, lovers and heroes –I lovingly remember and honor the gifts you shared.—First there were my teachers.Hermides, my Spanish teacher, who taught me to trust my...
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Do You Trust Sex With Strangers?
Embed from Getty ImagesListen to your instinct, that’s where trust starts When I was 16, a guy in his 30s got on the bus I was on, stared at me for an uncomfortably long time, struck up an inane...
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Did We Just Turn out the Lights of the Shining City?
Embed from Getty Images—A core element of the brand image that the United States has built for itself is that it is supposedly the one nation that people from everywhere will sell their possessions...
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